“What will they say if my child doesn’t do well?”
“What will they think of me as a parent?”
“Did I give my child too much playtime?”
“Did I pressure them too much?”
“Should we have started lessons earlier?”
As we approach SEA Results Day, these fears and anxieties tend to intensify. Inadvertently, we might transfer them onto our children.
Anxious thoughts are common, but here’s a sobering fact: the exam is over. While reflection is important, for now, focus on staying calm and following these guidelines to ensure your child feels loved and supported.
1. Ignore social expectations.
Have you ever noticed how many of our fears and anxieties are tied to what others might think?
Try not to get caught up in what others expect or think of you or your child. Your primary concern should be your child’s well-being and happiness. Many people, considered successful in various ways, share how their experiences with exams like SEA became insignificant over time. Their stories remind us that while SEA is important at this stage, it doesn’t define our children’s futures.
2. Don’t compare your child or yourself with others.
It’s tempting to compare your child’s performance with their peers. However, celebrate your child’s effort and growth rather than how they measure against others.
Don’t compare yourself to others, either. They are not in your situation, and you are not in theirs. You did your best, and your child did their best. That is all that matters.
3. Avoid social media when you can.
Social media can amplify comparison and anxiety. Consider taking a break from certain sites and muting groups during this period. The constant updates, comments and questions from others can add unnecessary stress. Stick to those that offer a healthy, supportive environment.
4. Watch for signs of stress in your child.
Kids can show stress in various ways, like headaches, stomach aches, or difficulties sleeping. Even if your child says they are fine, pay attention.
Encourage open conversations and reassure them that it’s okay to feel how they are feeling.
5. Take care of yourself.
Think of your child as having an antenna that can pick up on your stress. Taking care of your own mental health is just as important as supporting your child’s. Ensure you’re eating well, getting enough rest, and doing things that help you relax.
Final Thoughts
Regardless of how mature, calm or indifferent they may act, our children want our approval and need our unconditional love.
At the end of the day, this exam is just one step in your child’s educational journey. There are many more opportunities for growth and success ahead. Celebrate your child’s efforts and let them know you’re proud of them for doing their best. Also, celebrate your own efforts, and know we are proud of you, too!
In a life of unpredictability, we cannot guarantee that everything will be fine for our children. But we can assure them they are loved and will be loved through it all.
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