Balancing Structure and Fun during the Vacation

From waking up early for school to spending long hours studying and doing homework—our children work hard throughout the school term. For this reason, many of us try to give them the fun and relaxation they deserve over the vacation. However, we also know it’s important to maintain routines so they can develop self-regulation skills and feel a sense of security.

So, how do we find that delicate balance between structure and fun?

1. Plan a schedule.

However, this does not mean micromanaging every minute of your child’s life. Rather, have a rough outline of how your child can spend each day. Consider allocating times like meals, outings, family activities, chores and any classes they’re taking this vacation. Stick the schedule in a place where your child can easily see it.

2. Maintain routines.

While it’s natural to relax some rules during the vacation, try to maintain some key routines like bedtimes and mealtimes. Being consistent in these areas can help your child feel secure and minimise the chances of them becoming anxious or overwhelmed.

3. Involve your child.

Let your child have a say when planning outings and other activities. When a child feels included, they are more likely to cooperate and enjoy the activities. Discuss options like classes, camps, events and places they may like. Together, you can figure out what works best for them and your family.

4.  Limit screen time.

Screen time isn’t inherently bad. It can be educational, entertaining and a valuable way of connecting with loved ones. However, excessive screen time can affect children’s behaviour and development. In your child’s schedule, create a healthy balance by designating time for playing board games, walking or creative projects like painting or baking.  

5. Create family traditions.

The vacation is an ideal time to establish and maintain family traditions. These can provide stability and create lasting memories for your child. Traditions can be simple, like cooking soup together on a Saturday or walking every Sunday morning. Explore activities that resonate with your child and family. 

While structure is important, don’t forget to leave room for spontaneous fun. Vacations offer more opportunities to connect with your child. However, we know it can be difficult to do this when you’re strapped for time. Be flexible, practise self-care and seize any opportunity to have fun with your child.

Remember, mundane routines with you can become memorable experiences for them.